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Not long after I enrolled in my second attempt at college, my father sent me an email.  It consisted of just a link to a news article about a local man - the usual inspiring thing.  The man in question had visited a university as a teenager, and at the end of the visit, he took his name tag off and stuck it underneath the bleachers.  He vowed to himself he'd return as a student and be successful, and years later, after his share of struggles, he came back to find that tag still there.

I sent a somewhat snotty response back to my father.  I had flunked out of my first college and moved back home very, very reluctantly.  I was full of hope about this second chance, but I also sensed that most people, my parents included, didn't have much faith in me any longer.  I replied, "What are you implying, Dad?  You know things are going to be different this time.  I'm not going to mess it up like I did before.  You'll see."

His response?  One line:  

"All I'm saying is, don't forget where you put your name tag.  Love, Dad."

When I got married, I found myself repeating another of my father's one liners to my husband.  Growing up with a chronic liar of a mother had made me somewhat bitter in the promises department, and gestures have always meant very little to me.  After a routine fight, I informed my partner that words meant nothing to me, and actions meant everything. 

I'm sorry.  I won't ever do that again.  I promise I will change.  Things will be different.  I don't do that kind of thing anymore.

Put your money where your mouth is, so the saying goes.  Right?  Actions speak louder than words.  And don't forget where you put your name tag, people.  

Date: 2011-10-23 03:52 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] muchtooarrogant.livejournal.com
Sorry, I know I'm not supposed to be smiling after reading your entry, but the fight you had with your partner sounded SO familiar to me. I wish I could say I'm no longer the kind of person who says the, "Actions speak louder than words," phrase during an argument, but I wouldn't wanna lie.

Thank you for posting this, I enjoyed it.

Dan

Date: 2011-10-25 03:57 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] kungfufighting.livejournal.com
Thank you! I like that it made you smile - I always try not to take myself TOO seriously. :)

Date: 2011-10-27 12:31 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] n3m3sis42.livejournal.com
It sounds so familiar to me, too. Argh. I really enjoyed this post, though.

Date: 2011-10-27 12:38 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] muchtooarrogant.livejournal.com
Used on or by you? *grin*

Another LJ Idol competitor recently made the kind comment that my username appeared to be very incorrect. I guess I've mellowed a bit.

Dan

Date: 2011-10-27 12:54 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] n3m3sis42.livejournal.com
By me. I can be pretty arrogant, but having a kid has definitely mellowed me.

Date: 2011-10-27 12:58 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] muchtooarrogant.livejournal.com
Kids'll definitely do that to ya. Unfortunately, I think I've passed a good bit of arrogance on to my eldest daughter. *sigh*

Dan

Date: 2011-10-23 08:14 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] shadowwolf13
Kind thoughts are always nice but like you I often have trouble taking promises until I've been shown that somebody will back them up.

Good entry.

Date: 2011-10-25 03:57 am (UTC)

Date: 2011-10-24 09:46 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] everywordiwrite.livejournal.com
I love that line - Don't forget where you put your name tag. What a good way of expressing that idea.

Date: 2011-10-25 03:57 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] kungfufighting.livejournal.com
Thank you! I didn't say it, I'm just clever enough to have remembered it. ;)

Date: 2011-10-25 07:17 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] everywordiwrite.livejournal.com
I'm definitely willing to give you points for memory and a father who's good with words! :P

Date: 2011-10-24 07:18 pm (UTC)

Date: 2011-10-25 03:58 am (UTC)

Date: 2011-10-24 08:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] noodledays.livejournal.com
I like your dad. :)

Date: 2011-10-25 03:58 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] kungfufighting.livejournal.com
Haha, thank you. I'm fond of the old man too. :)

Date: 2011-10-26 05:38 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] alycewilson.livejournal.com
I really wanted to hear more about your dad and your relationship with him. That's a great story about him.

Date: 2011-10-26 08:15 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] basric.livejournal.com
Left me smiling. Well written.

Date: 2011-10-26 11:50 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] alephz.livejournal.com
Your (I guess maybe not)hypothetical dad is pretty awesome. I love those bits of shorthand for important stuff like this.

'Cause "don't forget where you put your name tag", once the context is there, is just such a potent bit of advice.

Date: 2011-10-27 07:39 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] greenfernway.livejournal.com
Don't forget where you put your name tag.

good thing to remember.

Date: 2011-10-27 09:36 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] karmasoup.livejournal.com
Don't you hate it when you hear your parent's voice in your head, and you know you realize where they were coming from, and suddenly you get it? That keeps happening to me more and more the older I get.

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